The Healing Paradox
Why We Must Expect Transformation & Let Go of Control
Healing is a fascinating journey. It’s not always linear, nor is it predictable. Yet, what makes the process so powerful is that we hold the reins. This is also what makes healing a challenge for many of us. We are in control of not just our physical health, but our mental and emotional vitality as well. We are in full ownership of our own health. Yet, many of us do not want to be because that means we are in full ownership of our own disease as well.
As a chiropractor, I’ve come to understand that healing doesn’t begin just when someone gets adjusted or resolves a physical pain. It begins far earlier on an energetic plane. It is in the realm of patterns we’ve built around our beliefs, expectations, and experiences. The way we think about ourselves, our desires we carry, and the stories we hold, all ripple out of us shaping our perception of pain. It diminishes our own ability to recover and thrive.
If you want to accelerate your own healing abilities and take ownership of your healing journey, you must understand this lesson. I am going to teach you to know you can heal and recover fully.
Let’s explore that space.
Healing Is More Than Physical Relief
We’ve been conditioned to approach healing as a set point. In western society we think of disease just a change in our physiological state away from homeostasis. Said another way, we only heal when things are broken and dysfunctional.
The reality is that is far from the truth. Healing really is a journey that encompasses mind, body, and spirit. It does not just start when the pain starts and end when the pain ends. Once we can let go of this idea, and learn healing is an entire process, we can learn to expect so much more from our healing journey.
It’s about transformation. It’s about growth. It’s about finally stepping into the fullness of who we are. Our pain is a teacher, the healing journey is the lesson. We can expect to learn.
True healing involves a shift in awareness. The body, through its infinite wisdom, speaks in whispers, nudges, and at times, in loud, insistent pain. More often than not, this pain is a guide. It is our unconscious way of showing us something is wrong...and not just physically, but out of alignment emotionally or spiritually.
Our pain is not an enemy. It is not something to overcome or push through. It points to the places where we are out of harmony with ourselves. And while the adjustment of a joint or the stimulation of a muscle may alleviate the physical tension, lasting relief requires us to ask why.
Why is my body holding onto this?
Why won’t it let go?
These are questions of alignment—spiritual, emotional, and energetic alignment.
Healing Expectations: The Gift of Your Mindset
If you’ve read Dr. Joe Dispenza’s You Are the Placebo, you already understand the power your beliefs hold over your biology.
You are not just a body. How you think consciously or even your unconscious beliefs will shape how pain manifests, how you move through discomfort, and how quickly your body responds to interventions like chiropractic care.
Think about it: when you come in to see me, what’s your expectation? Are you seeking quick relief or true resolution? Are you chasing a temporary fix, or are you open to the idea that the work we do together will ripple into every layer of your being?
When we hold limiting beliefs—“I’ll never heal,” “I’ve tried everything,” “Nothing works for me”—we build walls that keep healing at bay. These aren’t just thoughts; they become energetic roadblocks. To transform them is to allow your body the freedom to respond in ways that go far beyond what you think is possible. It’s a partnership between us, yes, but it’s also a partnership that you build with yourself.
Healing begins with expectation. Not expectation rooted in control. It’s the kind of expectation built on trust. Trust that your body knows how to heal itself, trust that you are worthy of healing, and trust that there is a path forward. When we hold this kind of expectation, we open ourselves up to the possibility of miracles.
Your Healing Path: Letting Go of Resistance
Resistance. This is something I see every day with my patients, myself, and those close with me. It is something I’m intimately familiar with in my own life.
For example, I recently wrestled with a pain in my right foot that felt like sharp needles pressing through my heel and up toward my toes. What I knew, and what I was still trying to avoid, was that this pain was connected to my resistance to taking the next step in my life with my career. The fun part, is that next step is: writing and content creation.
For my entire life (literally) I have been resistant to being the public figure with regards to my spirituality and being a doctor (healer). I had an unwillingness to move forward that quite literally stopped me in my tracks. I manifested my own pain because I did not want to take that next step.
What better way to not take that next step then for it to be painful.
I knew that the only thing that was going to fix it was to do the thing and start writing and to start to become the public figure and to start to become a leader in this space.
It wasn’t until I took the first step which is posting more on Substack, speaking my truth vulnerably, leaning into the thing I resisted the most that my pain began to dissolve. My body, no longer tasked with carrying the resistance I had created in my mind, finally started to release.
Closing Reflection
Healing begins with a belief and expectations. Your healing isn’t a mystery your body is hiding from you. Every ache, ping, and pull is a message waiting for you to unwrap. The more you tune in to the subtle whispers, the more connected you become to your own innate power. And that is where the magic lies.
The magic is creating expectations around your ability to heal. I expected and knew I would heal and soon as I started to write. My patients come to me expecting to feel better. I expect them to feel better before they leave my office. We create a field of healing energy expecting well-being when we work together.
If you have not read any of Dr. Joe Dispenza’s books I highly recommend them.
Finally, I share this question with you: What belief is keeping you from healing?
Other random musings: I have begun to believe that especially with chiropractors, our expectations as healthcare providers influence more than we know. If I expect and fully believe I will fix someone’s neck pain with an adjustment I most likely will. If I am a chiropractor and do not believe adjustments help at all, I will never see my patients improve from just adjusting.